Drop in passion , Drop out the compulsion .

So listen to me carefully beta , said dad while we sat on the mini terrace of my house watching cars pass by on a  hot summer afternoon in to get  some  air over some chilled sugarcane juice "Apparently on a regular Sunday afternoon , when  the upper east siders  of Southern California were are all drenched in sociality mostly over poker games and high profile meet ups in a fine dining restaurant   restaurant , along with them was also a father daughter duo having some family time over food , when the waiter showed up with the bill the daughter left him a heafty tip of all most $500 dollars while the gentleman also  being from a well off man chose to keep it as low as $5 , with many questions in her eyes the daughter kept staring at her father and the man spoke " You young lady are born to the world's richest man but I was born to a woodcutter , can you guess the legend  ?The words were from Mr Bill gates himself ! " continued my dad who was on a mission  that evening trying to explain me the fact that ''only person who has worked for something  will value it correctly '' This entire conversation immediately replayed  in my head all most after 4 years later today morning as I sat with my bowl of cheerios and as a part of my  quarantine morning ritual started to browse some inspirational ted talks to keep me company while I finish my my breakfast but suddenly among all of them I did end up viewing a commencement speech from Mr Steve jobs at the Stanford where in he quotes about how he saved  soda cans  and traded them for 5 cents , how a consciousness thought of draining his parents hard earned money into taking some courses that really did not interest him made him take the then biggest decision of his life '' drop out of collage ''. I really did learn a thing today the most common habit all successful well known faces - they value things , they invest where its necessary , they keep it simple - if its worth it is in if it is not they are out -The principles of  life that sound so simple but are difficult to live by . 

The western culture is modern and there is no doubt about it , we all talk change , we talk acceptance we talk of ' living the dream 'but  do we really  allow ourselves or our kids to do so ?. In my opinion no ,that does not yet happen here because the day normalcy broke it will create wonders we have many examples  of  the ones  who stepped up from being normal  l and their imaginations and ideas changed the world ! Steve jobs is one of them . But to break the normalcy and to escape to try something that the heart actually desires -it takes guts , it takes courage to step out and survive the storms alone  , it takes immense patience to go through the worst days yet not giving up on the idea that one day it will all happen , it takes a lot . And maybe the idea of stepping out and ending up in this scary place is what makes most of us tremble and settle for a worldly developed pattern of " Go graduate , Go grab that job , Go settle down , Get make a fixed deposit , Go secure this or that ". All most all of us grew up hearing everyone preaching around on how one needs to truely introspect and find out what we want but believe me I tell you this is not the task ," the heart knows what it wants  " yes we do ! but unfortunately we do not know how we will get it and hence we constantly manipulate our  minds to settle for something else which is more comfortable  why ? because the security that comes with the normancy is worth nothing and the risks accompaying the ideas are fearfully consuming . 

Steve jobs has wonderfully talked about the concept of love and loss adding up to which I would say what do we actually fear losing ? friends , social status , work , a few  worldly  pleasures ?  I dare you to follow my thoughts here . Were any of us born with all of this ? who were we then or how were we ? we entered this world alone and so will we depart alone so in my opinion god has given each individual the strength and the skill set to survive alone between both the above mentioned phases that we address it as' life' and ' death '. So risk it , all though practically one has nothing to lose but if the shot is played right and the circumstances surrounding it are in favour , you do you  It is so much to gain . 

Apart from this the speaker has wonderfully mentioned  in his speech how setbacks shape him into a person he is today , well setbacks are a part and parcel of life . Not every setback is meant to distract you , there are ones that are aimed to divert you towards betterment . A sudden break up won't make sense to you until the day you will happily be end up with a goofy soul who reads you inside out  like an open book , being fired from work won't make sense to you unless that pushes you to create something of your and  be your own boss , being forced to move away from family won't make sense to you unless one day you will proudly go back home and will be able to cook your parents a meal and realize how long you come when it came of self reliance or independence . If you look back you will realize , not even  what we call -accidents are the ones that   are really "accidents ". It is all planned and the pain is necessary for transformation - to  transform ideas , values , beliefs , to learn to experience and to create . 

Lastly ,  let us never forget -anything that  is meant for you will never miss you and whatever is not yours will not even reach you so drop it all -  the fear , anxiety , agony , self doubts  and take a chance, play that one shot that's been on your mind since ages , yeah that one that is always on the top of your head even at 3 am when you are tired after a long day , the one that you have always been discussing about with your best friend , the one where you see your actual potential at use   !who knows what awaits for you next in this journey called "life ".

- Prachi Chandrika Patel